Have you been to a few swinger meet and greets and really had a good time? Are you having trouble finding swinger meet and greets in your area? Why not hold your own meet and greet? All they take is just a bit of planning and a little bit of your time.
I’ll help you to get started by sharing a little about holding your own party in this article. Hopefully the information will help you with deciding if you want to hold one, and how to get started if you do. At the end of the article, I’ll also share some tips that can help you have a successful swinger meet and greet.
If you are not sure what a swinger meet and greet is, don’t worry, we’ll take a look at what one is first.
What Is a Swinger Meet & Greet?
A swinger meet and greet is basically a small party or get together of seasoned swingers and new swingers. Most are open to couples that want to explore the possibility of becoming swingers. These swinger lifestyle meet and greets are usually held at bars, restaurants, private clubs, or swinger clubs.
Swinger meet and greets are for meeting other swingers in an environment that is similar to going out to meet a group of people that are not swingers. These swinger meet and greets usually do not provide sexual play rooms or sexual encounters at the party. They are low pressure environments, and a lot less stressful for new swingers than a regular swinger party.
They are great for meeting and getting to know other swingers in the community that you may run into at other swinger parties from time to time.
Why You Should Hold a Swinger Meet & Greet
Holding a swinger meet & greet is an excellent way to meet new swingers and make new swinger friends. Holding one and being the host also puts you in a position to meet everyone that comes to the meet and greet.
Swinger meet and greets also allow you to meet other swingers in a low pressure environment. Since a meet and greet does not have a sexual component it makes it easier for you to meet new swingers without any expectations of sexual play.
One big reason to hold a swinger meet and greet is because these types of get-togethers are sometimes difficult to find. So, why not hold your own?
Picking a Location for Your Swinger Meet & Greet
Picking a suitable location for a swinger lifestyle meet and greet is extremely important to having a successful get-together. You will need to find a place that will rent an area for your meet and greet or possibly provide an area to you for free.
Look for places that have ample seating and good parking. If this is an evening or nighttime swinger meet and greet a bar is almost essential. A place that has a dance floor, or pool tables is a big plus.
First, select the area you would like to hold your swinger meet and greet. It should be in an area that has a good number of swingers that live nearby, and is large enough to hold the number of guests you estimate will attend.
Now, look at local bars, restaurants, hotels with small convention rooms, and local strip clubs. Make sure each location you check out has ample parking for the number of guests you plan to invite.
You could even look at local swinger clubs and see if you can hold a swinger meet and greet during a time that they are not normally open.
If you are on a low budget, check with local bars and see if they will provide a roped off area at no cost for your meet and greet.
Make sure when you select a venue to hold your party that you check with them to see if they do the cleanup, or you do after the party is over.
Running Your Swinger Meet & Greet
Running your swinger meet and greet can be a daunting and scary task. But it does not have to be with careful planning. If at all possible, recruit a few other swingers to help you.
If you plan on providing food or snacks, make sure you or someone you designate keeps the food and snacks well stocked throughout the party. Also, make sure that the food area is stocked with eating utensils, plates, and napkins. You should also make sure that the food area is kept clean at all times.
Provide plenty of trash receptacles so guest don’t leave trash and empty drinks just sitting around. It makes it much easier to keep the party nice and clean.
Make sure that you and your spouse mingle a lot. You want to greet each party guest as soon as they arrive, or as soon as possible. Ask your guests if they are having a good time and tell them if they have any issues to just let you know.
Take the time to introduce guests to each other. This can be done as they arrive and throughout the evening.
If you are in a public location like a local bar, check with the manager from time to time to see if they are having any issues with your guests.
If you have a guests that is being a problem to the other guests or employees of the location you are at, pull them aside and chat with them. If you can’t get them settled down, the best thing to do is to have them leave the party. One bad guest can ruin it for everyone else.
Swinger Lifestyle Meet & Greet Ideas
Let’s look at some ideas that can help make your swinger lifestyle meet and greet run smoothly and help make it enjoyable by all your swinger party guests. Here are several to get you started thinking about your own ideas for your swinger party.
Have different ice breaker games or events. You could have games where you have to match cards with someone else at the party. It’s sort of like a hunt. You have to hunt out the other person that has the same card as you.
You could have contests where the couple who gets the most names of the other couples wins some type of prize. Maybe you could arrange for a local swinger club to provide a deep discount or free entry for the winning couple.
If the venue has a dance floor or pool table, you could have some type of contest.
Another way to help break the ice with your guests is to have each couple introduce themselves to the rest of the guests. Maybe even have them tell the group a little about themselves.
One of the best ways to break the ice between your guests is to take each couple around the party and introduce them to all the other couples.
Advertising Your Swinger Meet & Greet
Once you have your swinger meet and greet planned, it’s best to start getting the word out and advertising it as soon as possible. You don’t want to wait until the last minute, or you may end up without any guests. The people you invite need time to fit your meet and greet into their most likely busy schedules.
How you get the word out and advertise your swinger lifestyle meet and greet will be determined by whether your party will be open to the swinger general public or only by personal invitation.
Another decision you need to make before you plan to advertise your swinger meet and greet will be if you decide to invite couples only or invite couples and singles. Keep in mind the fact that if you do invite singles, some couples will not attend your meet and greet. So, really think about the couples you really want to invite and determine whether they would want singles at the party or not.
If you decide that you want a private party, you will need to make a list of who you would like to attend. Then go through that list and personally contact each couple and invite them to your party.
If you decide that your meet and greet will be open to the public, you will need to get the word out about your party to large numbers of swingers. The best way to do this is to list your swinger lifestyle meet and greet on the major swinger lifestyle members only sites like SLS, SDC, and Kasidie.
You can also announce your meet and greet on the different swinger forums, and social media groups.
If you are planning a larger swinger meet and greet, mention in all of your advertising for everyone to invite their swinger friends. This can also be a great way to have a hybrid party where it is mainly private, but your personal invites can also invite one or two of their swinger couple friends.
You will also need some way for guests to RSVP that they are coming. This way you can track the number of potential guests that will be coming to your swinger lifestyle meet and greet. This can help you determine if your space will be large enough, if you have enough food, etc.
If you have a lot of swinger friends on any of the major swinger sites, make sure you send out a notice about your party to all of them. Your friends list should always be the first place you start with promoting your party.
All of this takes time. Make sure you start promoting your party at least a month in advance.
Swinger Lifestyle Meet & Greet Tips
Here are some tips you may find helpful when planning and holding your swinger lifestyle meet and greet party.
Do your best to greet everyone as they arrive. You want to make them feel welcome the moment they enter the door.
You could have a potluck party. Have everyone bring a covered dish to the party. People love to try out new food dishes and share recipes. Have place cards that have the name of the guest(s) that brought the dish.
Pass out name tags to the guests. Couples should also have their spouse’s name under their name. Makes it easy to spot couples and singles.
If you are afraid to hold your own swinger meet and greet, find a swinger friend that would like to co-host with you and help with the party.
Your first party should be a private party. This way you can get your feet wet with just current friends, and possibly their friends attending.
If you are having a public party, you may want to consider hiring security to help with any problem or rowdy guests. Just make sure the security you hire understands the swinger lifestyle.
