Couples and singles in the swinger lifestyle enjoy many sexual fetishes. You’ll find swingers enjoying fetishes from extremely mild to extremely wild and kinky. One of the many benefits of swinging is the opportunity to explore all types of fetishes that you normally may not get to explore.
The swinging lifestyle affords couples and singles the opportunity to just watch a fetish they are curious about or actually participate and explore the fetish.
Let’s first do a quick review of what a fetish is. A fetish is basically any type of sex act or sexual experience that is not plain ordinary one on one sex. Most people when they think of the term fetish, only think about the extreme fetishes. In this article, we are going to explore the most popular swinger lifestyle fetishes without really thinking if they are extreme or not. There are a lot of fetishes that are extremely enjoyable that are not extreme. In fact, many are fairly mild.
Let’s now move on and take a look at the most popular fetishes in the swinger lifestyle.
Partner Swapping (aka Wife Swapping)
I would venture to say that the main swinger lifestyle sexual fetish is swapping partners for sex. It’s basically what drives the swinger lifestyle and pretty much what it’s all about. When you hear someone talking about partner swapping, they may refer to it as wife swapping. Both phrases mean the same thing.
Partner swapping in the swinger lifestyle can comes in two main forms. Partners can be swapped, and the sex happen in the same room, or partners can be swapped and the sex happens in separate rooms.
MFM Threesomes (aka MMF Threesomes)
Threesomes are a very popular swinger lifestyle fetish. Especially the MFM threesomes. An MFM or MMF threesome is when one female has sex with two males at the same time. With the abundance of single males in the lifestyle, they are very easy to arrange.
Many women love the sexual attention of two guys and the MFM threesome fetish is perfect to fill that desire.
FMF Threesome (aka FFM threesome)
The other threesome swinger lifestyle fetish is the FMF threesome. This is a threesome where one male has sex with two females. If the females are bisexual, then all three usually have sex with each other.
This threesome fetish is highly sought after in the swinger lifestyle but is a lot harder to arrange. There are not as many single females in the lifestyle as there are single males.
Many FMF threesomes take place between a couple and a female from another lifestyle couple, or between a couple and one of the female’s friends.
Exhibitionism
You will find that a lot of couples in the swinger lifestyle enjoy being watched while having sex. The exhibitionism fetish is very common to see, especially at swinger clubs and swinger private parties.
Many couples enjoy putting on a sex show for other lifestyle couples at swinger private parties. You will also find couples that enjoy watching others watching them having sex.
Voyeurism
We just talked about the exhibitionism fetish and on the flip side of that is the voyeurism fetish. Many swingers enjoy watching others have sex. Voyeurism is extremely popular in the swinger lifestyle. It’s basically like watching a live porn or sex show.
Many swingers clubs even have sex rooms setup just for watching others have sex. Many couples even enjoy watching their partners have sex with others.
Girl-on-Girl (aka Lesbian Sex)
Girl-on-girl sex is extremely popular in the swinger lifestyle. In fact, many couples with a bisexual female are drawn to the lifestyle because it gives the female the opportunity to explore her bisexuality.
Most swinger clubs have labels or colored dots that the bisexual female can put on her name tag to let others know that she is a bisexual.
Group Sex
The group sex fetish is another very popular fetish in the swinger lifestyle. Many couples will arrange to have several couples join them for sex. Swinger clubs that allow on-premises sex, usually have sex rooms designated just for group sex. Many have larger beds or cover the floor with mattresses.
Orgies
The orgy fetish is a much larger version of the group sex fetish. Orgies are extremely popular in the swinger lifestyle. You’ll find swinger clubs and private swinger house parties almost always have a room or area designated just for orgies.
You’ll also find out, if you did not already know, that vanillas usually think of orgies when they hear the term swinger lifestyle. Even though orgies are only a small part of the actual lifestyle.
Water Sex
If you look around just about any on-premises swingers club, you will most likely see hot tubs, swimming pools and large showers. You’ll also see a lot of swingers having sex in them. What better way to have sex and be clean at the same time?
Many swingers seem to love having sex in the water. Water sex is a popular fetish that many swingers enjoy.
Hotwifing
The hotwifing fetish seems to be growing in the swinger lifestyle. Many women are finding being a hotwife is very sexually fulfilling. The hotwife fetish seems to have exploded over the last several years in the swinger lifestyle. Many women enjoy the freedom to express their own sexuality and to fill their sexual needs or desires that being a hotwife affords them.
Over the years, the definition of a hotwife has grown to encompass many meanings and subsets. The basic definition of a hotwife that holds true through all definitions is a woman that has the freedom to have sex with any guys she wants, with permission and encouragement of her male partner. Basically, the male partner does not have any problems with them going out and having sex with whoever they want.
Cuckolding
I guess you could say that cuckolding is an extreme version of hotwifing. It’s really a fetish in its own right, but over the years has become to some as a version of hotwifing. The swinger lifestyle has many couples that enjoy this fetish.
If you are not familiar with what cuckolding is, here is a very basic description. Cuckolding is when the female partner has the freedom to have sex with any guy she wants but her male partner is only allowed to watch her having sex. He is not permitted by her to join in. Some cuckolds are made to clean up the woman after another man cums inside her or on her.
Cuckolding is not nearly as popular as hotwifing is in the swinger lifestyle, but you will run into it on occasion.
Bondage
Many swingers love a little bondage while having sex. It’s a popular fetish with swingers. You’ll see many women that are tied either spread eagle to a bed or standing up with their hands tied above their heads. Many times, you will also see them blindfolded. Bondage and being blindfolded seem to intensify the sex. You will also occasionally see men tied up. But, not near as many as you will see women.
Using bondage is very popular when participating in other fetishes like group sex, threesomes, and gangbangs.
BDSM
BDSM is another popular fetish in the swinger lifestyle. You will find some couples and singles that enjoy being in a BDSM scene while others only like to watch.
BDSM actually encompasses many smaller fetishes. But all of them are based around bondage, discipline, domination, sadism, and masochism. Most involve that fine line between pain and pleasure.
Many swingers clubs have dedicated rooms just for BDSM play. They usually label these rooms as dungeons.
Small Gangbangs
Gangbangs have gotten a very bad rap from today’s porn. It seems the porn makers tend to make violent gangbang movies these days. Many even portray the girl as basically a piece of trash to be used and abused. The types of gangbangs that are popular in the swinger lifestyle are NOT these types of abusive situations.
Small gangbangs centered around giving the girl extreme pleasure are the types of gangbangs that are popular in the swinger lifestyle. Many even occur by accident. They start off with just a couple or two having sex in a room that is open to invitation and slowly more and more guys come in and the next thing you know, the girl is enjoying sexual attention from a lot of guys.
Many of these gangbangs are setup by a couple for the female’s enjoyment. They seem to be very popular as surprises for a woman’s birthday celebration. Let me reiterate. We are talking gangbangs that the woman actually enjoys.
