Do you have a swinger yes, no, maybe list? Do you know what one is? Do you know why you should have one? We’ll answer all of these questions and walk you through the steps of creating a swinger sex yes, no, maybe list starting today.

Swinger yes, no, maybe lists are great for swinger couples and single swingers. Start your swinger sex yes, no, maybe list today! You can thank me later.

Let’s start off by looking at exactly what a yes, no, maybe list is.

What Is a Yes, No, Maybe List?

A yes, no, maybe list is pretty much what you would think it is. It’s a list of things, events, or places that you check off the yes box if you want to do it or go there. If you don’t want to do or go to a place on your list, you check the no box. If you think you might but are not 100% sure if you want to do or go to something on your list, you check the maybe box.

You can create all types of yes, no, maybe lists. You may create one for traveling, and another for activities. You can basically create a yes, no, maybe list for anything you want. We’ll be limiting our discussion today on yes, no, maybe lists that swingers can create and have a ton of fun with.

Swinger yes, no, maybe lists can be created by couples and singles. If you are a couple, you would create the list together and then check the boxes on the list individually. Then, combine your lists and see what you have both checked yes. Even better, you will learn what your partner is not interested in and maybe interested in doing.

Swinger yes, no, maybe lists can be tame to extremely wild. It’s totally up to the person or couple creating a list.

Let’s take a look at why all swingers need a yes, no, maybe list next.

Why You Need a Swinger Yes, No, Maybe List

The list of reasons why you need a swinger yes, no, maybe list could get extremely long. I’ll keep it short and to the point. Here is a list of some of the many benefits you will get out of creating a swinger version of the yes, no, maybe list today.

  1. It makes it a lot easier to know what your partner wants or likes. You won’t have to guess and accidentally pick something your partner does not want to do or try.
  2. A yes, no, maybe list makes a great way to share fantasies and desires with your partner.
  3. Improves communications between you and your partner. Especially concerning the swinger lifestyle and sexuality.
  4. Opens up the possibilities to trying new sexual adventures and sexual activities.
  5. Can help eliminate boredom in the bedroom that can occur with a long-term partner. You can discover new things to try.
  6. Lays the groundwork to talking openly about deeper fantasies the two of you have.
  7. Helps you to learn more about your partner concerning sex.
  8. Can increase sexual enjoyment and increase that sexual spark between you and your partner.
  9. Gives the two of you a way to test the waters with new sexual activities.
  10. Learn what your partner is comfortable with and is not.

I could go on and on. You’ll discover all types of benefits from creating a swinger yes, no, maybe list together that go way beyond what I mentioned above.

Before we get into actually creating your list, let’s take a look at what problems you may encounter along the way while creating your list and actually using it.

Problems You May Encounter Creating and Using a Swinger Yes, No, Maybe List

If this is your first “sexually oriented” yes, no, maybe list that you are creating with someone else, you need to be aware of a few problems you may encounter. That way you can be prepared to handle them either before they happen or when they unexpectedly happen. Here are the most frequent problems you could encounter.

  1. You may feel a little vulnerable since you are sharing very intimate likes with your partner that they may not know about.
  2. You could find yourself having difficulty opening up to your partner about your sexual wants and desires.
  3. You may want to add something to the list but are too scared to add it because you are afraid that your partner may react badly to it.
  4. You could be downright embarrassed to share a sexual want with your partner.
  5. You could be afraid of hearing something from your partner that you don’t want to hear. For example, they want something a past sexual partner provided them.
  6. You may discover you don’t know how to respond to something that your partner checked yes to.
  7. You may find that you don’t know how to respond to one of your partner’s sexual wants or desires.

If you find that either of you are having problems with sharing your sexual wants, desires, or sexual fantasies, I recommend reading the following article.

How to Discuss Your Sex Fantasies With Your Sex Partner

Let’s start creating your swinger yes, no, maybe list next.

How to Create Your Swinger Lifestyle Yes, No, Maybe List

I would recommend creating your swinger yes, no, maybe list using a word processor or text editor on a computer. This way you can print out copies of your list whenever you need. Another option would be to create it in a spreadsheet program. Just keep it simple and don’t try to get fancy with the layout of your list. You want to keep this a fun and enjoyable experience.

The first thing you want to do is brainstorm either alone or with your partner as to what you want on your list. What you may find best is to have your partner create their own list while you create yours.

Feel free to add general and exact entries to your list. In fact, you can add just general items and then later add specific items to each general item the two of you checked yes to.

Once the two of you have created your lists, combine them into one master list. Now, it’s time to add the columns in front or at the end of each item you added to your combined list.

Add either underlines or check boxes for yes, no, and maybe. After you complete that task, you have a basic yes, no, maybe list ready to use.

Optionally you can add additional columns if desired. Here are some examples.

Conditional – Add a conditional column if you find that you want to check yes on some of your list entries but have specific conditions that would make it a yes instead of a no. If you can’t define specific conditions or find you have too many conditions, just check the no column instead.

Fantasy Only – You can also add a fantasy only column to your list. You would check this column when an item on your list turns you on but only want to fantasize about for now. You can always return to your list and change a fantasy only to a yes at any time.

Now that you have a basic understanding on how to create a swinger yes, no, maybe list, let’s explore what you can add to your list next.

Ideas and Examples You Could Add to Your Swinger Yes, No, Maybe List

Let’s take a look at some general items you can add to your list.

Have a MFM threesome

Swap partners and have separate room sex

Go to an on-premise swingers club

Participate in an orgy

Watch others having sex

Let people watch you having sex

Watch your partner having sex with someone else

Now, let’s look at some specific items you can add.

Watch my partner having a MFM threesome while I masturbate

Go to an on-premise swingers club and have sex with a total stranger

Watch from a distance while your partner is flirting with other swingers

Tie my partner to the bed and blindfold them. Then bring in others to sexually pleasure them with you

Be tied to the bed and blindfolded. Then my partner brings in others to sexually please me

There are no right or wrong items to add to your list. Just use your imagination and make it a fun experience coming up with the items. Be as general or specific as you desire.

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Let’s look at how to use your new swinger yes, no, maybe list next.

How to Use Your New Swinger Yes, No, Maybe List

Now, it’s time for the really fun and sometimes scary part. Actually, putting your swinger yes, no, maybe list in use. There is no right or wrong way to use it. So, feel free to modify the method I describe below. Or completely invent your own way.

  1. Print out three copies of your list. Give one to your partner and take one copy for yourself. Set the third copy aside for now. We’ll be using it later.
  2. Both of you should take your time and go through your lists. Check off the appropriate yes, no, maybe column that applies to you. If an item does not pertain to you, skip it.
  3. If an item is partner or gender specific, and you are not that partner or gender it pertains to, check your answer in the context that you would be OK with your partner doing or participating in the item. Let me give an example here. Let’s say the item was “Participate in a FFF threesome” and you are the guy. Check yes if you are OK with your partner participating in a FFF threesome.
  4. After you have both filled out your lists, take the two lists and combine them into one master list. You could use M, F, B as designators in the master list. M for male only gave this answer, F for female only, and B for both of you gave a specific answer the same.
  5. As you combine the two lists into the third, take your time and discuss each item. Discuss why each of you answered yes, no, or maybe. This gives you a chance to learn more about each other’s sexual wants and desires.
  6. If one of you answered maybe, find out why. You can then break that particular item out into several more specific items that one could get a yes from.
  7. If you both said no to an item, you could move it to a fourth list that could be revisited from time to time. Things, wants and desires do change over time.

Now, let’s move on and discuss questions you can be asking each other as you go through your lists to help spark open discussion.

Questions to Ask While Discussing the Results of Your Swinger Yes, No, Maybe List

Since a yes, no, maybe list should spark open communication and exploration, here are some questions and topics you could use to ask each other while going through your list.

  1. Do you have any boundaries or limits concerning your yes answer to _.
  2. What would it take to turn your no answer to a maybe or yes answer? What could be modified to get you interested in _.
  3. If a line was skipped, does it make you feel vulnerable, exposed, or embarrassed? Why?
  4. If you answered no to an item but really wanted to answer yes, why? Does it make you feel like you are in the wrong, going against society’s approval, etc.?
  5. Do you have any fantasies that you did not add to the list because you don’t want your partner to know about them? Why?
  6. If one of you answered yes and the other no, is a double standard rearing its ugly head?
  7. If both of you answer maybe to an item, ask each other why they answered maybe instead of yes? Can it be turned into a yes by both of you?

The entire idea of the above questions and similar questions is to spark conversation and help expand your sex life as a team. So, really listen to each other.

Now that you have your list, start working through each sexual item on your list that you both answered yes to. Also, you should revisit your list from time to time to see what changes.

Revisit Your Swinger Yes, No, Maybe List From Time to Time

Our likes, dislikes, and dreams are always changing, some growing, and some fading away. This goes for sexual activities too. What I recommend is to revisit your swinger yes, no, maybe list every few months. Just review your existing list and remove, add, and modify items on your list. Then go through the same process you did with your last list. It’s also a good idea to compare your new list to your old lists to see how your sexual wants and desires have changed over time.

So, mark it on your calendar to review your list with your partner and see how the two of you have grown sexually. Over time, you may also discover that the two of you are communicating your sexual needs and desires a lot more openly.