Swinger clubs are easy to find and attending them is usually fairly easy. Most just have you purchase a membership and pay a door entrance fee to attend.
Private swinger parties on the other hand can seem hard to find and get invited too. Usually finding your first private swinger party and getting invited is the hardest one. Once you have your foot in the door, finding additional private parties gets a lot easier.
Let’s explore how to find these private parties and get yourself invited. But first, let’s take a quick look at why you should make an effort to find these elusive invite-only swinger parties.
Why Look for Private Swinger Parties?
Ask anyone that attends private swinger parties why they go, you will most likely hear that they are just a lot more fun, and it’s a lot easier to get to know all of the other guests.
Private swinger parties can set their own party rules and dress code. Most are usually a lot more relaxed as to how you have to dress. They usually have a lot more of a relaxed atmosphere too.
When you attend a private swinger party, they are usually a much smaller group than you would see at clubs. Most private party hosts take the time to introduce new guests to everyone. You rarely see this happen at a swingers club.
When meeting other swingers at private swinger parties you will most likely find yourself a lot more relaxed than you are at clubs.
These smaller private parties can be a lot more fun, and intimate.
Let’s move on and take a look at the different types of private swinger parties you may want to hunt out.
The Different Types of Private Swinger Parties
While on your hunt for private swinger parties, you will find many types. Here are the most popular types of private parties you will run across.
House Parties – This is the main type of private swinger party you are going to find. These are held in the party host’s own home. They are also the hardest to get invited too. You will have to get to know the hosts, or at least one of the trusted guests to get your foot in the door. Would you just let anyone in your home?
Private Meet & Greets – These are usually held at local bars or strip clubs. The host normally gets the establishment to reserve an area for the get together. Some even have private rooms that can be reserved for private parties. These are usually easier to get invited to than private house parties.
Hotel Private Parties – Some private swinger parties are held at hotels. Small parties usually rent a single room. Larger private parties may reserve a block of rooms for the guests. Each guest then pays for their own room.
Hotel private parties sometimes start off in the hotel bar, or by the hotel swimming pool, and then progress to the private hotel rooms later.
Private Pool Parties – These can be held at hotel pools, or pools at a residence. The ones at private residence can get a lot wilder than the ones at hotel pools.
Private Swinger Pop-Up Parties – These you really need to be in the right place at the right time to get invited. They are spur of the moment parties that just happen. You may see swingers at a club decide to take the party to another location. Sometimes they take their private party to a hotel room, a local late-night bar, or a private home.
While we are talking about the different types of private swinger parties, I’ll mention here that some private parties only invite couples, while others may invite single females and single males to attend.
When hunting down private swinger parties, always make sure that you meet their requirements to be invited.
Now that you know what the most popular types of private swinger parties are, let’s move on and look at how to actually find them.
How to Find Private Swinger Parties
Private swinger parties may seem difficult to find. But, if you know where to look, you will find plenty of them. Let’s explore the top ways to find these private parties.
The first thing you should do is talk to any swingers you already know. Ask them if they know or hear about any private swinger parties to please let you know. The larger your circle of swinger friends the better your chance of hearing about one.
Next, you need to get social. Start looking for any forums or chats that mention private parties. Get active in these threads. You can also start asking around on swinger forums and chats if anyone is holding a private party. You could also start a thread or conversation on the different swinger forums about your interest in attending a private party.
If you are not sure where swingers hangout online, I would recommend checking out SLS (Swing Lifestyle), SDC (Swinger Date Club), and Kasidie. All of these swinger sites have active forums and chats. Also check out the speed date, hot date, and party announcement sections on these swinger sites. You will almost always find a few private parties being mentioned.
Now, that you know how to find private swinger parties, you need to know how to get on the invite list. Let’s look at that next.
How to Get Invited to Private Swinger Parties
Now comes the actual hard part. Finding private swinger parties is easy. Getting invited to attend one can be much more difficult than finding the party. Let’s look at some ways to make getting that invite a little easier. Oh, and once you get invited to one party, getting invited to other private parties gets a lot easier.
First, be active in the swinger community. Attend swinger clubs on a regular basis, and don’t be a wall flower. Also, be active on the swinger forums and chats. Make sure your online swinger profiles are filled out completely and show you off in a good light. You need to become someone that is known, liked, and trusted.
If you find a friend that is going to a private party, see if they can get you an invite to the private party. This is the way most swingers get their first invitation to a private party.
Watch the swinger sites for private parties that are being held in a bar or strip club. Then contact the host of the party and see if you can get invited. This works especially well if you have chatted with the host on the swinger forums or chat rooms.
If you are very active on the swinger sites, one of the best ways to get invited to a private swingers party is to host your own party. Make sure you send invitations to other swingers that hold their own parties. The idea here is to get known in the private party circle.
When you do finally get that invite, make sure you are personable and mingle. You need to show yourself off in the best light. This way you have a better chance of being invited to future parties.
It may seem that it’s a lot of work to hunt out and get invited to private swinger parties. But you will discover that it’s well worth it.