Same Room vs Separate Room Sex – Swinger Partner Swapping

If you have been around the swinger lifestyle or just starting to explore it, you may have heard mentioned couples swapping partners and having sex either in the same room or separate rooms.

What I want to explore in this article is some of the benefits of partner swapping for sex in the same room, and partner swapping for sex in separate rooms.

Both same room sex, and separate room sex can be extremely enjoyable. Let’s start off by first exploring the many benefits of same room sex when swapping sex partners.

The Many Benefits of Same Room Sex When Swapping Sex Partner

Swapping sex partners, and everyone having sex in the same room has many benefits. When talking about same room sex, it can be everyone having sex in the same bed, or in separate beds in the same room.

Same Room Sex Allows for Rotating Sex Partners

Swapping partners with another couple in the same room, gives you the benefit of being able to switch sexual partners back and forth. You could start off by having sex with the other person and switch back to your partner. You could go back and forth as often and long as you want.

This is one reason some swingers prefer same room sex. Same room sex allows for rotating sex partners and adding more variety to your sexual encounter with another couple.

Same Room Sex Let’s You Stay Connected to Your Partner

Having sex in the same room gives you the opportunity to stay connected to your partner while swapping partners for sex.

Being in the same room lets you physically touch your partner while they are having sex with someone else. You can also see them having sex while you are having sex with someone else.

Another benefit of same room sex is that you can hear your partner’s moans of ecstasy while they are having sex with the other person. This is a great way to know that your partner is enjoying the sexual partner swap.

Same Room Sex Provides Exhibitionism and Voyeurism Opportunities

Are you or your partner into voyeurism or exhibitionism? Having same room sex provides opportunities for both.

You can watch each other having sex with different people. You can also enjoy being watched by your partner while having sex with someone else.

You can learn new things your partner enjoys sexually by watching them having sex with someone else.

Many swingers choose same room sex because they like to watch their partner being sexually pleasured by others.

Same Room Sex Allows for Sex With Multiple Partners

Having sexual encounters with other swinger couples and singles in the same room lets you and your partner play with multiple sex partners. It can also offer bisexual play.

Having sex with multiple partners can add variety to your sex life and bring on higher intensity orgasms.

Many couples in the swinger lifestyle choose same room sex because they are looking for the opportunity to have sex with multiple partners while sexually playing.

Same Room Sex Is Great for Threesomes and Group Sex

Many couples and singles in the swinger lifestyle enjoy sexual threesomes and group sex with multiple other couples and singles.

If you and your partner enjoy having threesomes and having group sex experiences, same room sex can give you the opportunity.

Same Room Sex Allows for Sexual Attention From Multiple Partners

Do you or your partner like to have sexual attention centered on you by multiple sex partners at the same time? Having same room sex allows for all types of sexual attention from as many partners as you want.

Many swingers love having multiple sexual partners pleasuring and touching them all at the same time. This is why many choose same room sex when partner swapping.

Same Room Sex Helps With Safety and Rules Concerns

If you are new to swinging and partner swapping one of you may still feel a little concern about your partner following the rules the two of you have established. This concern can be relieved by having sex in the same room. The two of you can see if each other is following your rules.

As you and your partner build trust with each other concerning swinging, this concern should fade away.

Another reason some swingers choose same room sex is for safety concerns. If they are in the same room with each other, they can see if their partner is safe. This lets each of you relax so you can enjoy having sex with someone other than your partner.

Same Room Sex Allows for Easy Calming of a Nervous Partner

If one or both of you is still in the nervous phase of swinging and partner swapping, having sex in the same room allows you to calm a nervous partner so they can actually enjoy the new sexual experience.

Same room sex is also great if the male partner has ED issues. His partner can help him get an erection before he starts to have sex with someone else. If at any time, he starts to get nervous and lose his erection, his partner can step in and help to get him hard again.

Same Room Sex Creates Shared Memories

Swapping partners and having sex in the same room is an experience a couple can share together. Since you can see and hear your partner having sex, and they can see and hear you, you are experiencing the partner swapping together.

This produces shared memories that the two of you can look back on and talk about. Just the act of the two of you talking about a shared experience can cause both of you to relive the experience in your minds. This can cause the feelings of excitement and ecstasy to be felt again.

Talking about a shared sexual experience during foreplay can lead to the two of you having really great sex with each other.

Same Room Sex Makes It Easier to Find Swingers to Play With

More swingers prefer same room sex over separate room sex when partner swapping. This makes it a lot easier to find couples to sexually play with and swap partners with for sex.

So, if you want access to a larger number of potential sex partners, consider same room sex partner swapping.

The Many Benefits of Separate Room Sex When Swapping Sex Partner

Swapping sex partners and going off to separate rooms to have sex also has it’s many benefits. When reading through these benefits, keep in mind that separate rooms sex can also mean separate locations.

Separate room sex can also mean one of you goes on a date with someone other than your partner with the intention of having sex. It could be that you date someone one day, and your partner dates someone different another day.

If the female partner is bisexual, it could also mean that each of you have sex with the girl at different times alone.

Separate Room Sex Allows for One-on-One Intimacy

Swapping sex partners and going to separate rooms to have sex is a lot more intimate than same room sex.

Some swingers prefer one-on-one intimacy with when having sex with another person like they do when having sex with their own partner.

This private intimacy can bring on deep bonding between the two having sex. This can lead to deep and lasting friendships that go much deeper beyond just a friendship.

Some couples crave this deep bonding and choose separate room sex with other couples they want to form a deep bond with.

Separate Room Sex Lets You Focus on One Sex Partner

Swapping partners and going to separate rooms to have sex lets you focus on pleasuring one sex partner completely. Since there are only two of you in the room, all of your sexual attention can be directed to the person you are having sex with.

You don’t need to split your sexual attention between multiple sex partners. You also don’t have others in the room having sex that could draw your attention away from your current sex partner.

Separate Room Sex Lets You Focus on Your Own Enjoyment

When you are swapping partners for sex in separate rooms, it makes it easier for you to concentrate on your own personal enjoyment a lot more.

Since there are only two of you in the room pleasuring each other sexually, you can concentrate on each other and also concentrate on your own enjoyment.

You don’t have to spread your attention around and distract yourself from your own sexual enjoyment.

Separate Room Sex Allows You to Completely Let Yourself Go

Many couples have trouble with letting themselves go in front of each other when partner swapping. They don’t want their partner to feel that they are having more fun having sex with someone bedsides them.

On the other side of the equation, some people feel jealous when they see their partner getting excited when having sex with someone else.

Both of these situations cause people to hold back and not enjoy having sex with someone besides their partner.

Swapping sex partners and having sex in separate rooms gives you the opportunity to really let yourself go sexually without the fear of upsetting your partner.

This is one reason some swingers prefer separate room sex when partner swapping.

Separate Room Sex Can Be Less Distracting

Some people get distracted when having sex if others are in the same room. This leads to less sexual enjoyment for them. They prefer one on one sex without anyone else in the room with them.

Seeing your partner having sex with someone else or hearing them having sex can draw your attention away from the sex you are having. This type of distraction can reduce the amount of enjoyment you are having with another sex partner.

Some swingers want to have sex with someone without any outside distractions. This is one benefit of swapping partners and having sex in different rooms.

Separate Room Sex Can Reduce Performance Anxiety or Pressure

Some people get performance anxiety when there are other people in the room while they are having sex. Others feel pressured to perform when being watched having sex.

You can reduce this type of anxiety and performance pressure by swapping sex partners and going to separate rooms to have sex.

Separate Room Sex Allows for Private Sexual Experimentation

Have you ever wanted to experiment with a sexual act that you are not ready to discuss with your partner yet? Or have you ever wanted to sexually experiment with a fetish or kink you know your partner has no interest in or would frown upon?

Having sex in separate rooms allows you private sexual experimentation opportunities. You can experiment with different sexual acts without your partner knowing about it.

Some couples may feel that sexual experimentation is not appropriate while others don’t see a problem with it at all.

The bottom line is that separate room sex can provide the opportunity for private sexual experimentation if desired.

Separate Room Sex Lets You Enjoy Sexual Acts Your Partner Does Not Enjoy

Everyone has different sexual preferences and likes. Most likely you and your partner have sexual likes or curiosities that the other does not.

For example, you may enjoy anal sex, but your partner thinks it’s disgusting and wants no part of it. Or you like to dominate your sexual partner but they do not like being dominated at all.

Swapping sex partners and having sex in separate rooms can give you the opportunity to still enjoy your sexual preferences that your partner does not like or totally disagrees with.

Separate Room Sex Can Add a Thrill of Mystery

Swapping sex partners and going to separate rooms to have sex can add a thrill of mystery to the experience.

Some people get a thrill out of knowing that their partner is having sex with someone else but not knowing what they are doing.

They let their imaginations run wild and it is a big sexual rush to them.

Swingers that enjoy this type of sexual rush frequently swap partners for separate room sex just for the thrill.

Separate Room Sex Can Provide More Sexual Freedom

Having sex in separate rooms can allow each partner to have more sexual freedom. Neither partner needs to involve their partner while having sex with someone else.

Many people actually have trouble expressing themselves sexually in front of their partner. They feel embarrassed or feel that their partner may think they are being strange.

You can express yourself sexually in ways that you don’t feel comfortable expressing with your partner.

You can also express yourself sexually in front of the person you are having sex with and not worry what they think of you. You are not going home with them.

Some swingers choose separate room sex when partner swapping just so they can have the sexual freedom that they can’t get with their regular partner.

Separate Room Sex Lets You Share Your Experience With Your Partner

When you and your partner go to separate rooms to have sex with different sex partners, you each have different sexual experiences.

These separate experiences can be shared with your partner and add excitement or new things to the sex the two of you have.

Or they can be kept to yourself and remain a mystery to your partner. Either can be sexually thrilling.