So, you have been thinking about entering the swinger lifestyle as a single male. But what types of sex and sexual dynamics are available to quality single male swingers?
The quality single male swinger actually has many sexual opportunities for fun and excitement in the swinger lifestyle. We’ll be going over many of these sex opportunities and sexual dynamics that can be available to a quality single male swinger.
Note how I keep saying quality single male swinger. Not the typical single male swinger “want to be” that has very little to no sexual opportunities in the swinger lifestyle.
If you’re not sure what a quality single male swinger is, check out the following article. Then come back here and continue reading.
Swinging and the Single Male: A Survival Guide – Swingers Adventures Magazine
Ready? Good. Let’s start off with taking a close look at the different sex opportunities available to the single male swinger.
The Different Sex Opportunities Available to the Single Male Swinger
The swinger lifestyle gives a single male plenty of sex opportunities if he desires and approaches the lifestyle the proper way. These sex opportunities include threesomes, group sex, one on one sex, gangbangs, trains, orgies and more.
Let’s start off by looking at the most common sex opportunity a single male swinger may be invited to. That being the threesome.
Single Male Swinger Threesomes Opportunities
Being invited to be in a threesome with a swinger couple is going to most often be the sex opportunity you will run into as a single male swinger. Threesomes are a very popular sex dynamic in the swinger lifestyle with couples that play with single males.
A variation of a threesome you will run into from time to time is when two couples invite you to join their foursome as an extra. You as the single male swinger go back and forth between the two couples helping to pleasure the females.
You could also find a foursome where only one of the females wants an extra guy to play with while the other female does not. Be careful in this type of situation that you always remember which female wants the extra attention from a single guy.
You will find these types of threesome opportunities as a single male swinger. The first being the most prominent.
MFM – This will be by far the most popular threesome. It’s where you and the husband both sexually pleasure the woman at the same time. If lucky, you may even be invited to join the husband in DP for the woman being sexually pleasured.
MMF – This type of threesome is not as common as the MFM threesome but does exist in the swinger lifestyle. This type of threesome is where both men sexually play with the woman, but also sexually play with each other. This would be a good type of threesome for a single male swinger that is bisexual or bi-curious.
IF IT FEELS GOOD THREESOME – I don’t think this type of threesome really has a name or designation. It’s a normal threesome where both guys identify as straight but are extremely open-minded to new experiences. They mainly play with the woman, but when the men can add more to the experience by having some form of sexual contact, either briefly or sustained with each other to enhance the experience of all three of you, they go for it. This could be as simple as stroking the other man’s cock while she is sucking him or being fucked by him. Or more extreme like helping her suck the other man’s cock.
I can tell you that it is best if you let the couple that is inviting you to a threesome know what types of threesome opportunities you are open to. Open communication here is the key to a very exciting and fun threesome for all its participants.
Now that you know about the most common type of sex the single male swinger is invited to participate in, let’s look at another type of sex opportunity that is available to some single male swingers. That’s the invitation to join a group of swingers for sex.
Single Male Swinger Group Sex Opportunities
Group sex is extremely common in the swinger lifestyle. It usually consists of two or more couples having sex as a group. Occasionally these groups of swingers do want to add an additional male or two into the action. That’s where the single male swinger comes in.
As a single male swinger, you could be asked to be an extra male in a group of swingers that are playing from time to time.
You will find that most of your sex opportunities come from threesome and group sex invitations.
If you are invited to join a group, make sure you do spread your attention equally between the all the women that want extra attention from a single male swinger. That is, unless you are asked to only play with one of them. You may occasionally run into some women in these groups that do not want to play with single males. Make sure you respect their boundaries.
One word of advice. If you are invited to join in as an extra, you had better have really good stamina and staying power, if you want to ever be invited back.
The next type of sex that a single male swinger may encounter is the one-on-one sex invitation. This type of sex interaction is very rare but does happen from time to time.
Single Male Swinger One-on-One Sex Opportunities
The single male swinger being asked to just have sex with the woman opportunity does not come along that often in the swinger lifestyle. It’s much more prevalent in the hotwife lifestyle. Usually, one-on-one sex happens in the swinger lifestyle when two couples swap partners for sexual encounters either in the same room or different rooms.
If you are a single male swinger and all you want is one-on-one sex, you really need to concentrate more on the hotwife lifestyle instead of the swinger lifestyle. Your odds will be much greater.
If you are looking for one-on-one sex without the other man being around, your opportunities are going to be very limited in the swinger lifestyle. Watch for couples that advertise they are looking for a single man to take the wife out on a date. They do exist, there are just not many of them. Plus, the true hotwife is usually very selective when choosing guys to date. They usually want a man with very specific attributes and is the cream of the crop.
If you don’t mind the man watching you and his wife having sex, you may find that opportunity from time to time with hotwife swinger couples and possibly vixen/stag hotwife couples.
To be honest, if all you are truly looking for is one-on-one sex, you are better off hitting the bars looking for one-night stands. Your odds will be a lot better.
Let’s now look at a more extreme type of sex you may possibly be invited to be part of. We are talking about the gangbang. Let’s dive in and take a look at it next.
Single Male Swinger Gangbang Sex Opportunities
Sometimes a woman just wants a lot of attention, hands, and cocks. As a single male in the swinger lifestyle, you could be invited by a couple to participate in a gangbang with the wife or girlfriend being the center of attention.
One big warning. If you are invited to participate in a gangbang, forget everything you have learned about gangbangs from watching porn. The majority of gangbangs in the swinger lifestyle are planned for her enjoyment. They are not planned to be violent or degrading to the woman like you see in the majority of gangbang porn videos.
Make sure you understand exactly what is expected of you, and what the woman likes and dislikes. Some women like it rough while others don’t. Your job is to bring pleasure to the woman while several other guys are also bringing her pleasure.
Always remember that the woman is the boss in gangbangs. It’s not the other way around. The guys are guests. One other warning, the husband or boyfriend of the girl usually has veto rights. If he does not like the way you are treating her, you will be asked to leave.
Another type of sex that is similar to but different from a gangbang is pulling a train. Not sure what that is? Let’s explore trains next.
Single Male Swinger Train Sex Opportunities
Just in case you don’t know what a train is when it applies to sex, it’s when a woman has sex with multiple men one after the other that are lined up waiting for their turn to have sex with her. Hence, the term, pulling a train.
Some swinger women like to see how many guys in a row they can have sex with before they tap out. You as a single male swinger may get the opportunity to be one of the guys in the train she pulls. Pulling trains may be enjoyable for the guys, but they are mainly for the woman’s enjoyment.
Now, let me give you a little warning. If you plan to be one of the guys in a train, you better not have a problem with having sex with a woman that just had sex with several guys right before you.
If condoms are used by all, and the woman wants you to remove your condom and cum on her, can you handle having sex with a woman that is covered in cum by multiple other men?
Also, if condoms are not used and the woman wants to be creampied, can you handle having sex with a woman that multiple men have cum inside her before you?
Pulling trains can be a lot of fun for the woman. But they can also be extremely messy. So, if other men’s cum bothers you, joining a train may not be for you.
The next type of sex opportunity is probably the rarest. But does happen from time to time. It’s called a reverse gangbang. They are not for the faint of heart. You ready? Let’s go explore them next.
Single Male Swinger Reverse Gangbang Sex Opportunities
A reverse gangbang is when a group of women have sex at the same time with one lucky or unlucky man. These are what many men dream about while others get terrified just by the thought of one. They normally happen when a wife wants to surprise her husband with some extra special attention on his birthday, or other event they want to celebrate. But they are actually extremely rare for the single male swinger. If you end up in one, feel very special. Most single male swingers will go a lifetime without ever getting to experience a reverse gangbang. That could be good or bad.
They can happen when a group of women get together to celebrate or just party, and they all take a sexual liking to one particular man. If it’s you, you’ll know when you are cornered by a group (gang) of women pretty much treating you like a piece of prime meat or a new sex toy. One thing to keep in mind is that these women are after you for their enjoyment. Not really yours. If you are lucky enough, or unlucky enough to be one of these rare single male swingers, either go with the flow, or run for the hills.
Now for a word of caution. A reverse gangbang can go from excitement to being extremely overwhelming for the guy in a blink of an eye. Most men will tap out long before the women are done with him. So be scared, very scared.
Now, let’s move on to another type of sex that may be available to some select single male swingers. That’s joining in an orgy.
Single Male Swinger Orgy Opportunities
How would you like to join in a pile of horny people all having sex? Orgies can be extremely fun and are occasionally open to single male swingers. Note, that I said occasionally. Most swingers clubs do not allow single males in the orgy room.
The single male swinger will most likely find that orgies that allow single males happen at private house parties most of the time. Even private house parties sometimes do not allow single males to join orgies. Many times, the orgy is reserved for couples only.
If you do attend a club or private party that allows single men to participate in orgies, make sure you find out and fully understand their rules before joining in the fun.
If you are even slightly homophobic, I would recommend that you do not participate in orgies because you will come in contact with both straight and bisexual males from time to time. Once the energy gets going, you really have no way of knowing or controlling who touches you and who does not.
Now that we have explored some of the different sex opportunities that can be made available for the single male swinger, let’s explore the different sexual dynamics that the single male may have available to him.
The Different Sexual Dynamics Available to the Single Male Swinger
Let’s take a good look at the different sexual dynamics that may be available to the single male swinger that is invited to join other swingers for sex. The sexual dynamics we will be looking at include, straight sex, bisexual sex, one-night stands, friends with benefits, role playing, hotwifing, cuckolding, surprise sex situations, and down and dirty raw sex.
We will start off by looking at one-night stands, since this is the most common sexual dynamic that you, as a single male swinger, may encounter.
One-Night Stand Sexual Opportunities for the Single Male Swinger
I guess you could say a one-night stand is the most frequent sexual opportunity for single male swingers. This type of sexual opportunity is one of the most frequent you will find in on-premise swinger clubs or swinger hotel takeovers.
Single male swingers can be presented the opportunity to have a one-night stand with a swinger couple, and possibly on some occasions having a one-night stand with just the female half of a couple or single female swinger.
This type of sexual opportunity dynamic usually happens when the female half of a couple wants to have sex with more than one male at a time. On some occasions you may run into a couple that wants you to play with the female only while the male watches. In this type of situation, the male half of the couple may watch for a period of time and then join in.
On rare occasions you may be asked by a couple for you to have sex with the female alone while the male is off doing something or someone else. Just don’t expect this type of sexual dynamic to be the norm. Most swinger couples are not into a single male playing alone with the female half of a couple.
One word of advice. I would not recommend asking a couple if you can play alone with just the female. Let them make the offer if that is what they are looking for. Otherwise, you’re going to 99% of the time get a no to playing with them at all. Or even in the future.
Now, let’s move on and look at something that is a lot more than a one-night stand. Let’s explore the friends with benefits sexual dynamic opportunity.
Friends With Benefits Sexual Opportunities for the Single Male Swinger
If you really want to be active in the swinger lifestyle as a single male, you really should be pursuing the friends with benefits sexual dynamic opportunities that you may come across. To do this though, you really need to let your personality shine and really be interested in widening your circle of friends.
Once you are good friends with several swinger couples, you will most likely discover more and more swinger couples showing an interest in you. Most couples are used to the vast majority of single males that think they know it all, but in reality, don’t have a clue what the lifestyle is all about. Since swingers talk, the couples you are good friends with will tell other couples about you.
The single male that actually takes the time to become friends with a couple will find that they invite him to join them for sex a lot more frequently. Being good friends with several swinger couples could keep your sex card quite full at times.
The next sexual dynamic opportunity we will look at is not really the swinger lifestyle, but a lifestyle that does overlap swinging and has become a lifestyle that some swingers also practice. It’s called the hotwife lifestyle.
Hotwife Sexual Opportunities for the Single Male Swinger
If you are not sure what the hotwife lifestyle is all about, check out this article first. Then come back and continue reading.
Even though the hotwife lifestyle may have some similarities to the swinger lifestyle, keep in mind that it’s not. Don’t make the mistake that so many single males make and assume all couples are engaged in the hotwife lifestyle. If you do, you are setting yourself up for total failure as a single male swinger.
Many clubs do hold what is called a running of the bull’s night, a hotwife night, or a greedy girl party. These types of nights are generally for couples looking for a single male to either join them or to have sex alone with the female. But keep in mind even on these nights not all couples that attend will be hotwifing.
You will also find couples that live both the swinger lifestyle and the hotwife lifestyle. You will find more vixen/stag hotwife couples than pure hotwife couples. They go back and forth between the two lifestyles depending on their mood and what type of sexual adventure they are looking for at the moment.
The bottom line is that a single male swinger will possibly have hotwife lifestyle dynamic opportunities available to him from time to time.
The next lifestyle that has roots in the hotwife lifestyle but is NOT the hotwife lifestyle is the cuckold lifestyle. One warning, this lifestyle is not for everyone.
Cuckold Sexual Opportunities for the Single Male Swinger
Most hotwife porn you see on the Internet is actually cuckold porn. These are two distinctly different lifestyles. You never want to confuse the two. If you assume wrong, you may end up in a physical confrontation and being escorted out of a swingers club, never to be let back in.
Cuckold opportunities are very rare in the swinger lifestyle. You could even spend many years as a single male swinger and never meet a couple that lives the cuckold lifestyle.
If you are only interested in being a bull in the cuckold lifestyle, then the swinger lifestyle is not for you. You really need to search personals that state that they are a cuckold couple. Even then, some hotwife couples label themselves as a cuckold couple and don’t truly know the meaning of it. They just heard the term and started using it.
Cuckold opportunities are around. Just don’t expect to find a true cuckold couple in a swingers club. Unless they are wanting to role play being cuckolded for the fantasy. Even then, tread carefully.
Here is a little advice. Even if they say they are a cuckold couple, do not start demeaning the male first. Let her start it. Then follow her lead. Just to be on the safe side. Always keep in mind there are different levels of a cuckold relationship. They are not all the same.
Let’s now move away from the cuckolding lifestyle to something a lot more swingers enjoy. It’s call down and dirty sex. Let’s explore this sexual dynamic available to some single male swingers next.
Just Plain Down and Dirty Sexual Opportunities for the Single Male Swinger
On some occasions the single male swinger may be offered good old fashioned down and dirty sex from a couple or on rare occasions, a single female.
What I’m talking about is in the moment, come on let’s do it, follow me to the sex room now sex. You could also be offered a quickie sexual situation, or even just given the opportunity to drop to your knees and give a woman oral sex. Or for her to drop to her knees and give you a blowjob.
These types of sexual opportunities tend to become offered late at night after everyone has been having a good time. Do not just assume anything though. Don’t just start doing something unless you are offered first. Or you have asked and been given permission.
Not all sexual opportunities are just sex with a woman. Let’s now explore both straight and bisexual opportunities available to single male swingers.
Straight and Bisexual Opportunities for the Single Male Swinger
An open minded single male swinger has a lot more sexual opportunities available to him than one that has a closed mind. More and more male swingers are starting to stop hiding their bisexual or bi-curious tendencies. It seems that the bisexual swinger realm is no longer limited to just the female persuasion.
Of course, the most prevalent opportunity will be joining a couple where the male is straight. But don’t be surprised if a couple talks to you and lets you know that the male is bisexual or bi-curious.
Even if you are 100% straight, finding sexual encounters with couples is a lot easier if you are not homophobic in any way. When two males play with a single female, they do tend to make a lot of contact with each other. If the woman is into DP, you will be bumping balls and crossing swords with the other male, regardless of you both being 100% straight or not.
Let me put it bluntly to you. If you are homophobic, the swinger lifestyle is not going to be a pleasant experience for you as a single male swinger. You will be better off trying to find true hotwife lifestyle couples. Most of your sexual experiences will be with couples where the woman wants to be sexually pleasured by two men at the same time. Note that I did not say one after the other. I said both at the same time. Big difference.
The bottom line is, if you are homophobic, your sexual opportunities are going to be extremely limited in the swinger lifestyle if not nonexistent.
Are you ready for some fun and something different? Let’s now move on and look at the role-playing opportunities the single male swinger may enjoy and encounter.
Role Playing Sexual Opportunities for the Single Male Swinger
Many swingers love to role play. They find it adds excitement to their sex lives and can be just plain fun. As a single male swinger you may have sexually oriented role playing opportunities offered to you from time to time by couples or even groups of swingers.
To give you an idea of what may be offered to you if you are willing to role play, here are some random examples.
This one has been overdone but some still have fun with it. The single male poses as a pizza delivery person and is seduced by the wife when he delivers the pizza.
The woman pretends to be a prostitute and propositions a stranger for sex.
A wife is cheating on her husband with a stranger, and he catches them. Somehow it ends in a wild threesome.
The wife goes to a bar and seduces a stranger. Then brings him home for a threesome.
You, as the single male swinger, role play the silent stranger. The wife is blindfolded, and you and possibly other men are brought into the room to pleasure her. She has no idea who is having sex with her.
Role playing has an almost endless range of scenarios. It’s only limited to the imagination of all involved. Oh, and if you are afraid that you will start laughing while role playing, it’s pretty common. Sometimes the laughter can even lead to some wild and unexpected sex situations.
The next sexual dynamic we will explore can also include role playing. It’s the surprise sex situations that single male swingers may be interested in perusing and taking part in.
Surprise Style Sexual Situation Opportunities for the Single Male Swinger
Many men like to surprise their wife or girlfriend on special occasions with some form of unexpected sexual situation. Many swinger couples look for single male swingers to help surprise their partner on birthdays, anniversaries, or even just because they want to.
These sexual surprises could range from one-on-one surprise sex and threesomes to wild gangbangs and orgies.
If this type of opportunity is made available to you, you will most likely be approached by the man to see if you have any interest in helping surprise his wife or girlfriend. On rare occasions, you could be approached by a woman that wants to setup a surprise for one of her girlfriends.
These surprise sexual situations come in many forms. Some require a bit of role play, while others don’t. Here are a few sexual scenarios you could run into while exploring the swinger lifestyle as a single man.
You could be asked to come home with the man where he gives you as a gift to his wife for her birthday.
You could be asked to go to a bar that he is bringing his wife to and pretend you don’t know him. He then gets the two of you flirting with each other somehow. Or he gets her to seduce you. You play along and end up going to their hotel room or home for sex.
You are invited to be one of several men that are brought into a room where the wife is waiting. She is naked and blindfolded. Possibly tied to the bed spread eagle. All the men remain totally silent and pleasure the woman being surprised. Her never knowing who they were adds to the excitement.
If you are a masseuse or just really good with your hands, you could be asked to surprise a man’s wife with a full body massage that slowly changes into a very sensual massage that leads to getting her to orgasm or have sex with her. A popular version of this surprise is you and the husband give her a sensual massage together that leads into either just her having an orgasm or having a threesome.
With surprise sex situations, always pay attention to how the woman is responding. You want to make sure she is a willing participant and not being forced into the situation. If you are not sure, just excuse yourself and leave. You don’t want to be any part of a situation that the woman is not a willing and eager participant.
If a couple lead a vixen/stag hotwife lifestyle, you could even be approached by the woman to surprise her husband with a threesome. Many of these surprise situations start off with just you and her having sex, while her husband watches and possibly joins in the threesome after a while.
