What are some alternative places to go on first dates with other couples besides restaurants and bars? We don’t enjoy either.

Just think about what you do with your vanilla friends when you get together. Just keep in mind that you need to do something that will still allow all of you to talk and get to know each other.

Here are several places and activities I can think of that could work as a first date with another swinger couple.

  • Go on a picnic at the local park
  • Go to a museum that all of you have an interest in
  • You could go to an outdoor concert. Just sit near the back so you can still talk
  • A few rounds of mini golf could be a fun activity
  • Escape rooms could be an exciting first date
  • Go to the beach and just hang out. Or go for a walk
  • You could go hiking together
  • Go on a walk and explore a city

Just remember, the idea is to be able to get to know each other and have fun at the same time. Now that I have you thinking, keep adding ideas to this list.

My husband wants us to become swingers. Apparently, I’m not enough for him. Why would he want to swing? I’m so upset.

I’m kind of hesitant about answering this question. Swinging is a team sport. Since you are upset about his wanting to swing, I would say that neither of you is ready for swinging. I would not venture into it at this time.

Now that I have said that I want to explain just a little about someone that is ready for swinging and entering it under the right mindset. Please note I said the right mindset. Many venture into swinging with the wrong mindset and destroy their current relationship.

Swinging is not about the other person not being enough. Swinging is about adding depth and excitement to your sexual experiences together as a team. It’s about exploring new sexual adventures together.

Swinging is not about not loving your partner enough. It’s about so much more. It’s about how getting more out of your sex life together. It’s about sharing your sexual experiences with each other and living them together as a couple.

One of the single guys we play with as a couple appears to be falling in love with me (the female half). What should we do?

This is a tough one when it happens. What you really need to do is put him back in the friend zone. Stop inviting him to play for a period of time. Even cut down on any other contact you have with him. Make sure he is aware that you have other play friends. This way hopefully he will realize that the feelings he is having are not reciprocated.

You may even have to break off doing even nonsexual things with him for a period of time. You also need to show him in indirect ways how much you and your husband are in love.

You need to let him drift back into the friend zone before playing with him again. Sometimes that happens fairly quickly, while other times it never happens. In cases like the latter, it’s usually best to break all contact with him.

My wife and I want to start swinging but don’t have a clue how to start. Any help?

First, welcome to a wild adventure. Let’s see if I can get you pointed in the right direction. The first thing you should do is check out our online newbie guide. You can find it by clicking the link below.

New Swingers Guide

Next, I would check out our online swinger guide by clicking this link.

Online Swinger Guide

Finally, watch Swingers Adventures Magazine for an announcement about our brand-new book coming out soon. It’s named “First Time Swingers: A Couples Guide to the Swinger Lifestyle.” It will be perfect for you.

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We are holding our first swinger house party. Any recommendations on ice breaker games we can play?

First, congratulations on holding your first house party. I hope it goes well for you and everyone has a great time. Now on to your question. I’m going to point you to several articles on Swingers Adventures Magazine that cover a lot of swinger ice breaker games. I’m sure you’ll find several that will work great for your first party. Here are the articles. Check them all out and let us know how your party went!

8 Swinger Sex Games to Get the Party Going
6 Sexually Exciting Swinger Party Games
7 Fun Adult Swinger Games for Your Next Swinger Party

We want to go to our first swinger party but have no idea what to wear. We would be grateful for any ideas.

I’m going to give you two answers since you did not say if you two were going to a club party or a private home party.

If you are going to a private home party, I would contact the host and ask them how most of their guest’s dress. You could also ask them what they would recommend. Usually, if it’s a pool party the dress is casual or bathing attire. If it’s a party in their home, you could basically dress to impress. Women extremely sexy, guys dress slacks and dress shirts. But check with the host to see how they prefer their guests to dress.

If you are going to a club, take a look at their website and look for their dress code. Most want the women to dress as sexy or as skimpy as they are comfortable with. For guys, most clubs want dress pants, collared shirt, and nice shoes.