While exploring the swinger lifestyle you will hear or read many terms you may not be familiar with. Let’s explore swinger lingo you need to know.
Popular swinger lingo terms you will hear include, bedpost notchers, bi-sexual, bi-curious, can entertain, can travel, discreet, full swap, hot wife, soft swap, ticket, unicorn, and many more.
While exploring the swinger lifestyle you will hear and run across many terms you may not be familiar with. Swingers have a lingo that you should become familiar with. Some of these terms may be self-explanatory while others will need to be explained.
Let’s dive in and explore in more detail the swinger lingo you should get to know.
Swinger Lingo You Need to Know
Below you will find the swinger lingo that many swingers use. If you hear of a term not listed below, don’t hesitate to ask other swingers what the term means. Swinger lingo is easy to pick up and learn to use properly.
Adult Fun or Adult Play
Adult fun and adult play refers to sexual interaction between consenting adults. You will hear these two terms used to refer to swingers getting together for sex.
So, if you are talking to a couple in a swinger club and they ask you if you want to play, you know they are asking if you want to have sex with them.
Adult Movies
In the swinger community an adult movie is really just a porn video. A movie that shows explicit sex. These are played frequently at swinger clubs and parties.
Sometimes you will see adult movies playing on various TV screens throughout the swingers club. You will also find movie rooms in some swinger clubs where they play adult movies.
Bareback
Bareback or barebacking refers to having sex without the use of a condom.
Some swingers insist on the use of condoms while others will only have sex barebacking.
BBC Lover
This refers to a woman that actively seeks out and prefers sex with well-endowed black men.
Most of the time, the bigger the better.
Bedpost Notchers
Couples or singles that seek out sex with as many people as possible in one night are referred to as bedpost notchers. It’s a game to them to see how many people they can have sex with before calling it a night or weekend.
You will see bedpost notchers almost always at hotel takeovers. They go down the hotel hallways visiting any open doors the see.
Bi-Sexual or Bisexual
Bi-sexual refers to a person who likes to have sex with both men and women. In the swinger community this usually refers to a woman that likes to have sex with both men and women.
Many women in the swinger lifestyle are bi-sexual, but not all.
You will find some couples where the man is bi-sexual, but not as many as the bi-sexual women.
Bi-Curious
A bi-curious person is straight but interested in experimenting with a bi-sexual encounter. They may or may not have had a bi-sexual experience in the past.
If you are going to play with a bi-curious person, make sure you discuss what they want to try first. Also discuss any limits they may currently have.
Bi-Furious
A person that is bi-furious is extremely bi-sexual and mainly seeks out other bi-sexual people to play with.
They will usually participate in straight sex, but much prefer bi-sexual encounters.
Bi-Playful
Bi-playful refers to a person that is straight but will sexually play with the same sex while swinging. They will usually play up to a certain point.
It’s best to set the ground rules when playing with someone that is bi-playful before you start playing.
Bondage
Bondage refers to binding, tying or holding your sexual partner in some form of restraints.
Some people use bondage to experience sexual situations they would normally not do. It allows them the mindset that they do not have control over the situation.
Bukkake
A bukkake is when a person, usually a woman is ejaculated on by multiple men. Usually on the face. A true bukkake is usually 10, 15 or more men ejaculating on a woman’s face one after another.
Can Entertain
When you see or hear the term “can entertain” it means that the couple is willing to invite other swingers to their home to play.
Can Travel
When you hear someone say or post that they “can travel,” this means they are willing to travel to other locations and homes of other swingers to play.
Clean
When someone or a couple says they are clean, it means they are claiming they are hygienic, well-groomed and free of any sexually transmitted disease.
Keep in mind that someone saying they are clean does not always mean they are. Use your own discretion and practice safe sex.
Cougar
The term cougar is given to sexually aggressive women who like younger men. The term is in reference to the cat hunting her prey.
If a cougar eyes you and decides to go after you, you will know it.
Discreet
A swinger that is discreet, exercises caution and takes steps to guard non-swingers from finding out about them being in the lifestyle. It also means they guard other’s identities from outsiders.
There are many swingers in positions and jobs that would cause problems if the general public knew that they were in the swinging lifestyle.
Exhibitionist
An exhibitionist enjoys flirting, being nude, masturbating, or having sex while others watch.
If someone is an exhibitionist at a swingers club, they will usually leave the door to a play room partially open. Sometimes they will leave the door wide open.
Full Swap
When couples exchange partners for sexual play and intercourse, it is known as a full swap.
Full swaps can take place in the same room or different rooms.
This is the most popular form of swinging.
Gangbang
A gangbang is where a single female has sex with three or more guys at the same time. Gangbangs are great for women that like all the attention of males on them.
A gangbang also gives the woman a better chance at experiencing multiple orgasms and longer vaginal penetration.
On some occasions you will see other women participating in the gangbang using sex toys or strap-ons.
Group Room
A group room usually has a very large bed or multiple mattresses side by side on the floor. Some group rooms are wall to wall mattresses. Others have a central bed with couches and chairs around it.
These types of rooms are designed for multiple couples to play in at the same time. Many are also setup for watching others have sex.
Group rooms are great for orgies, voyeurism and exhibitionism.
Before entering a group room, make sure you find out and understand the rules for its use.
Hotwife
A hotwife is a married woman who has sex with other men besides just her husband. This is usually done with the husband’s encouragement and support.
Hung or Well-Hung
When you hear that a man is well-hung, this means he has a large penis. Hung usually refers to guys with an 8 inch or longer penis.
Well-hung guys are hunted after by many female swingers.
On-Premise
On premise refers to swinger clubs that allow sex within the actual club. Usually, they have designated areas where swingers can engage in sexual acts.
Off-Premise
Off premise refers to swinger clubs that do not allow actual sex to take place within the club. Swingers usually meet at these types of clubs and then go to hotels or home to actually have sex.
Orgy
An orgy is when 4 or more people have sex with each other as a group. Orgies are very popular at on premise swingers clubs. Many have group sex rooms and dedicated orgy rooms.
Play
When a swinger uses the term play, they are referring to any sexual activity between swingers.
Reverse Gangbang
A regular gangbang is where a single female has sex with three or more guys at the same time.
A reverse gangbang is where a single guy has sex with three or more women at the same time. The women usually take charge and control the action during a reverse gangbang.
This can be a very exciting but a physically demanding and draining experience for the guy.
Soft Swap
Soft swapping is where couples swap partners for sexual play but not intercourse. Rules are usually discussed before the couples play. Some allow oral sex, kissing and fingering. Some may only allow some forms of foreplay but not others.
Always make sure you understand what the other couples’ rules are and that they understand your rules before playing.
Straight
The term straight and its abbreviations STR and STR8 refer to a person that only plays with the opposite sex. They are not interested in bi-sexual encounters.
In the swinging community you will find that most males are straight, and most females are bi-sexual or at least bi-curious, but many female swingers are also straight.
Swapping
In the swinger lifestyle, swapping is a term that refers to two couples exchanging partners for sex. Swapping can be in the same room or even separate rooms.
Threesome
A threesome is when 3 people have sex together. Usually, it will be two males and one female or two females and one male.
In the swinger lifestyle you will also sometimes see 3 females having sex together while the males watch and possibly join in later to have an orgy.
Ticket
A single female that is escorted to a party by a single male for the main purpose of gaining entry to a swingers party is known as a ticket.
She is his ticket to entry. This practice is frowned upon by many swinger clubs.
Train
A train, also known as pulling a train is where a female has sex with multiple guys one at a time, one after the other.
Pulling a train allows for longer vaginal intercourse and multiple orgasms.
Unicorn
A single woman who swings is called a unicorn. They are rare and great when you find them.
You will see many groups of single ladies that have no intention of swinging at some parties. It seems to be a game to them. But on occasion you will find that mythical beauty known as a unicorn.
Vanilla
The term vanilla refers to someone that is not in the swinging lifestyle.
Voyeur
A voyeur is someone that enjoys watching others have sex or masturbating.
