I prefer separate room sex, but my husband prefers same room sex. What should I do?
Have the two of you talked about it? Have you told your husband why you prefer separate room sex? That’s the first step. Sit down and really talk about why each of you prefer same room and separate room sex when swinging.
There are benefits to both types of swinging. I have some articles posted on our magazine that go over this in detail. Maybe the two of you could read them together and discuss them.
Personally, what I would do in your situation is give and take. Have same room sex one time, and then the next time have separate room sex. Here is another idea. Have separate room sex and then after, tell your husband all the details. If he prefers same room sex for compersion reasons, that could go a long way. If he wants same room sex for safety concerns, maybe only have separate room sex with people you both already know and trust.
Here is an article I recommend that you both read. Same Room vs Separate Room Sex – Swinger Partner Swapping.
My wife does not like giving or receiving oral sex. Will that be a problem if we swing?
Most people will always try to tell you what you want to hear. I’m going to not do that for your benefit. Yes, this could be a problem. It will limit your pool of play partners big time.
Now, don’t misunderstand me, there is nothing wrong with her not wanting to give or receive oral sex. It’s her body and her choice. You just have to be prepared for many couples not wanting to play with her.
If you have trouble finding play partners, here is an idea. Maybe make a game out of it. Have her pull a train. Have a few girls that give oral sex to the guys and then have the guys have vaginal penile sex with her only.
Another idea would be for her and the guy to use sex toys on each other as foreplay.
Is SDC a good swinger site for single males?
I don’t think you will like my general answer to your question. But I will explain it. First, my answer to your question is, it depends on the single male. Told you that you would not like it. Now, let me explain.
For the majority of single male swingers, no website will be good for them. Why do I say that? Well, the majority of single males don’t understand the lifestyle or are willing to learn about it. They come to sites like SDC thinking it’s just a meat market where they can hook up with others for sex by just saying, “hi, I got a big dick and I want to fuck you. Here is a pic of my cock. Let’s meet tonight and fuck.” These guys eventually give up and swear there are no real people on the swinger site.
Now, for the single males that actually learn the swinger lifestyle and actually get to know couples through chat, do very well. I would highly recommend reading our article Swinging and the Single Male: A Survival Guide.
Good luck. The lifestyle can always use another quality single male swinger that knows the lifestyle.
